Wednesday, January 26, 2011

All We Need is LOVE!

Hey Everyone,
  After a 5 day vacation I can honestly say it's good to be back home again in Indiana...and on flat ground. I think being in the mountains and being in much higher altitude I experienced "morning sickness" like never before and I must was miserable! To top it off both of my daughters were sick with a sinus infection.
  It wasn't all bad though, I got the pleasure of being surrounded by some of the most fantastic supportive understanding people, it proved once again that I truly do have the best friends ( who I owe big time).
  Also on this vacation my heart was warmed like I never knew possible. Ruby reminded me in the most surreal way why I'm am doing this surrogacy...this is why I blog today, to share the inspirational conversation I had with my brilliant 3 year old. So let me set the scene for those who weren't there.

While on vacation we met a terrific couple...2 women who are raising two children together. This strikes my interest on many levels, one being The men we are working with will be in a similar situation, and this gave me a look into the future...and I loved what I saw. 2 supportive moms, caring and loving their children, 2 striving kids who showed deep care and love toward both moms...I'm sure this family goes through trials and tribulations but their high spirits and and pure happiness was very inspiring and very rewarding to see.

After meeting this couple my 3 year old Ruby came up to me and sat on my lap. She asked who these women were. I told her they were related to her little friend. "They are "noah's" aunts." I said "Ruby, you know how Dru is your Aunt? Well these women are "noah's" aunts...he has 2, isn't that so neat?" Ruby proceeded to shock me by comparing these women to the men we are surrogating for. She said "Mommy, they are like are friends in France!"

Knowing her understanding of the situation floored me. Growing up I knew gay couples but as many of you can agree it was taboo, and not talked about. I grew up with a family who taught me acceptance, and knowing that through this surrogacy I have taught my children the same gives me an overwhelmingly amount of pride! Not only does Ruby accept and understand that love is and can be experienced by same sex couples but here in 2011 it is not taboo! It's a subject we talk about openly and daily in our house hold and I am so proud to say that in the Cummings house even at the young age of 3 we promote equal rights and love for all!

Through this surrogacy I have learned so many things from so many different people and it is so humbling to know that while I learn, my kids learn. This short conversation with my daughter gave me once again the reassurance that this is what I was meant to be doing. I hope that reading this sparks conversation in your house, I hope it gives you a reason to talk about acceptance an equal rights to your children, no matter their age. We are our children's teachers...let's teach them LOVE!

 (Ruby is proof it's never to early to start this important conversation)

Well, I hope you all have a fantastic Hump Day, until I write again...stay safe!


  1. I stumbled onto your blog and I'm so glad I did. I don't know if you remember me, but I babysat you and your sister a couple times. It looks like you have grown into an amazing woman, and I'm so excited by what you are doing. Way to go!
    - Joany (Sims) Whitesell

  2. Thank yours much Joany, I'm so thrilled you enjoyed my blog! It's because of all the support that am able to do what I am doing, encouragement and support from you means nothing less then the world to me. Thank you so much!